A Mother's Pity Party

I felt like I should give other people a chance to join my pity party today.  I have been feeling an overwhelming sense of emotion for the past week over various things and I feel like writing down some of the helpful thoughts will help me get through (at least the ones that are appropriate for everyone's viewing). 

I think its only natural for a mother to think of themselves last when they have other people who need your love, feelings, and attention.  But at what expense does that leave you?  You are the backbone of the family, the one who gets up in the middle of the night for the 3am feedings, nightmares, wet beds, and when they just want mommy.  Your mental wellness is essential for keeping the family going.  Take care of yourself.  Don't be too prideful to ask for help.  Everyone does it in some way, shape, or form.  Be quick to forgive and forget, and don't harbor resentment for your child and anyone else in your life BUT more importantly yourself.  There is no way that is the "right way" except your own way.  Only you know what is best for your child, you are the Mom, not anyone else.  You are allowed mis-steps and mistakes and do not let anyone convince you otherwise as you will find they are not so perfect themselves.  When these things happen, do not dwell, nothing you can do now can change the outcome.  You are allowed to show weakness as it will show your children you are human and how to deal with it.  Do not compare yourself with other people and your problems to theirs.  Everyone is different and none less than the other.  Do not pity yourself and your feelings by saying "it could be worse", this does not make your problems and feelings less serious.  You are NEVER alone when you have people who love and support you.  These people will give you reassurance when you need it.  Only worry about people who worry about you and are worth your feelings.  You cannot please everyone.  Only worry with the things you can control and do not let the things you cannot control you. 

These are just some things I have had to tell myself (with much help and encouragement of others) to get through the yuckiness I am feeling lately.  Thanks to everyone who helped me compile this for your encouraging words.