Warning: If I had to rate this conversation it would be NC17. (I'm getting tired of putting warnings out there but feel like I have to.)
I have heard recently that 2012 is the "summer of sex" because of books like 50 Shades of Grey (which is being made into a movie) and the movie Magic Mike and now the impending re-release of the Sleeping Beauty trilogy from the 1980s which to me sounds utterly fabulous. Based on the fairy tale Sleeping Beauty in a medieval fantasy world telling the story of the sexual adventures of the main character Beauty from the same writer who brought us Interview with a Vampire (Ann Rice). I'm actually sad I have never heard of it until now as it somewhat brings older times which I am very into in my movies and reading and more modern times (well modern as the 80s) together. Anyways, this one is definitely going on my reading list. But, this also brings up an important question, with all the erotic entertainment as of late are American women becoming too in touch with their sexuality? Does this threaten our relationships?
I'm going to give you my opinion on this subject since this is my blog and of course there are always going to be differing opinions as there are with every aspect of life. I for one find the fact that more American woman are turning to this sort of literature liberating. Why shouldn't we be? Our boyfriends/husbands look at pornography of their choosing while us and the kids are in bed or in our beds reading our erotic novels or whatever else we choose to read. Now that's not to say I agree with excessive porn watching while neglecting your wife/girlfriend but that is for another blog and day. In fact, I know it has given some women a sense of adventure and experimentation with their significant others they may have not had before if they had not read it. And I have rarely ever heard a man complain about their significant other being a little extra randy after reading books or watching movies. This is a lot of why I really am a firm believer not so much of what the writers words are (since it is no literary piece of work) but what they stand for. I feel that women need to understand how to express themselves through their bodies more. If we don't know the things that excite us, how are we supposed to communicate that our significant others? I wouldn't think if our bodies were just vessels made to breed children we would get so much pleasure from such an act (orgasm). I also feel too often women are ashamed of their bodies mostly because of what we believe are imperfections. How many women do you know really look like the girls on TV, movies, and magazines? Come on girls, we have to give ourselves realistic expectations. I'm not saying you shouldn't better yourself if you want to but be real too. Even a lot of the media outlets now a days are portraying un-photo shopped and un-made up images of celebs which proves photo shop and make up artists really can work wonders. I have to say I envy the Europeans' sexual liberty in their publications, movies, and television. Not only are they more open to their sexuality and more in touch with their sexual feelings with their significant others but a lot of their publications do portray "real" people. But, even if we decide these are things we don't want to act out with our significant other (which is to each their own as far as the things they would and wouldn't do), it can still give us women a fantasy (Definition: imagine the occurrence of) which can carry over into our bedroom. Just because you fantasize about something doesn't mean you necessarily want that something to actually happen; That is why it is called a fantasy.
So in conclusion, if this type of literature and cinema gives us a liberating understanding of our sexuality that can carry over into our relationships with our significant others, why not embrace it?
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