Dumb F***ing E-Card

The purpose of this blog post is to go on a little bit of a rant about a "saying" or E-Card that I have seen on Pintrest and Facebook for the past year or so.  I'm sorry if I offend anyone who has posted it or pinned it because I truly understand the point you are trying to get across but I find it to be stupid and offensive. 

As a recent divorcee I immediately took offense and my first reaction out loud when I saw this was "no fucking shit".  That had never even crossed my mind when I was so in love and talking about marriage and spending the rest of our lives together.  That also never even crossed my mind when we spent approximately $25,000 of ours and our family's hard earned money on an unnecessary celebration professing our love (and I only say unnecessary now thinking about all the other things we could have used that money on).  We never once talked about how we were going to be when we got old together.  Nope, we just went into it saying "Well, there is always messy and expensive divorce if it doesn't work out.  Here goes nothing buddy."  In fact, this is what I was really thinking before, when, and after I got married...

To me that is like saying, "See that girl over there, she's divorced, so she apparently didn't want her first marriage to be her only one so it didn't work out for her.  Poor girl"  No, that is insulting and stupid.  You never know what someone's circumstances are or even what your own can bring or how things can change in a moments notice.  You may be that poor divorced girl one day who didn't want your first marriage to be your only.  

 

However, I think love is grand and you should definitely seize the moment with your loved one who you think you want to spend matrimonial bliss and the rest of your life with.  It may work out, it may not but we live in America where we have that freedom of choice.  Now, I wish everyone had that freedom but I already expressed my feelings about that.  I guess my only real point of this is I'm pretty sure everyone goes into their first marriage thinking it is going to be their only one you dumb fucking E-Card.